It turns out that the anecdotal input from my adoptive parents does not reflect the reality. Particularly my birthplace and the area my mother came from. So there is another possibility.
The good news is that there are only two people within a reasonable age range who live in the North of England who have my birth mothers name - which I have confirmed as correct. I have tracked both down as they have rare names and both married men with rare names!
So I have my original option and one new option. This should all be resolved within the next two weeks once all the birth and marriage certificates arrive.
What I do know is that I was born in a Salvation Army home, Hopedene, in Elswick, Newcastle. A quick Google search indicates that there are many children from this home in the same position as me. I hope they have the same level of luck I have had so far.
Monday, 30 July 2007
Thursday, 26 July 2007
Get in line, stay in line
The great business practitioner, coach and speaker Keith Cunningham has a great saying, 'Get in line and stay in line'. It is a metaphor for really seeing it through to get to your goals at the end of the day.
Well I am now standing in line. I wrote to Barnado's who were my adoption agency so many years ago and they replied saying that, yes, they did have my papers and, yes, they would share them with me and, yes, there was a waiting period of around six months.
I reckon that I will have already made contact with my birth family before I get my file! Indeed it feels like a race!
Well I am now standing in line. I wrote to Barnado's who were my adoption agency so many years ago and they replied saying that, yes, they did have my papers and, yes, they would share them with me and, yes, there was a waiting period of around six months.
I reckon that I will have already made contact with my birth family before I get my file! Indeed it feels like a race!
Yes
I did it! After one year of trying I actually started doing and got to my very first Yes Group, the Yes Group North.
A lovely, authentic group run by the lovely and authentic Catherine Patel.
I will be back - it is in my diary now until the end of the year and I look forward to really getting to know who is who and perhaps sharing some of my secret with them.
PS There is no secret!
A lovely, authentic group run by the lovely and authentic Catherine Patel.
I will be back - it is in my diary now until the end of the year and I look forward to really getting to know who is who and perhaps sharing some of my secret with them.
PS There is no secret!
Monday, 23 July 2007
Whirlwind has blown by
Wow!
Well my 80% guess was wrong, however I now have a 99% confidence that I have found my lineage. It has happened so quickly.
It would appear that I have three younger brothers and sisters and the biggest surprise is that my younger brother was given the same name that my adoptive parents gave to me. I will be using an intermediary and so the call will be made in the next six to eight weeks.
Remarkable.
Well my 80% guess was wrong, however I now have a 99% confidence that I have found my lineage. It has happened so quickly.
It would appear that I have three younger brothers and sisters and the biggest surprise is that my younger brother was given the same name that my adoptive parents gave to me. I will be using an intermediary and so the call will be made in the next six to eight weeks.
Remarkable.
Sunday, 22 July 2007
Interweb is a powerful thing!
That took a whole hour. A combination of knowing my birth name and where my birth was registered has given me an 80% confidence that I have already closed in on my search.
There is more synchrodestiny in that I think my mother now lives in the little village where I grew up, even though there was no connection originally!
The power of the interweb and a couple of subscriptions to www.findmypast.com and www.192.com.
There is more synchrodestiny in that I think my mother now lives in the little village where I grew up, even though there was no connection originally!
The power of the interweb and a couple of subscriptions to www.findmypast.com and www.192.com.
Saturday, 21 July 2007
Plunge
I have decided after forty-six years and five months to find out who my real family is.
What? I hear my reader ask.
Well I was fostered and then adopted by a very caring family and now that I have a son of my own I came to thinking what it must have been like to give up a child. I am sure that my birth mother will have moved on and maybe even forgotten. Knowing how the birth of a child affects you then I am not so sure.
I want to let her know that I am OK and that she has a lovely grandson. His grandmother died last year so maybe we can get him a new one.
I will put updates in here when I can. I have started a search process and so far I have made some progress and there is even a hint that I have a clue to follow. All very intriguing.
What? I hear my reader ask.
Well I was fostered and then adopted by a very caring family and now that I have a son of my own I came to thinking what it must have been like to give up a child. I am sure that my birth mother will have moved on and maybe even forgotten. Knowing how the birth of a child affects you then I am not so sure.
I want to let her know that I am OK and that she has a lovely grandson. His grandmother died last year so maybe we can get him a new one.
I will put updates in here when I can. I have started a search process and so far I have made some progress and there is even a hint that I have a clue to follow. All very intriguing.
Wednesday, 18 July 2007
Good grief
The work life balance plan seems to have become a little unbalanced. It is eight days since my last blog and that is just too long.
At least I am not missing the sunny summer weather!
One of the things that I found working for myself is that the idea of a weekend or a bank holiday becomes less relevant, less special. Well I have my first proper weekend for a while coming up and I am so looking forward to it!
I may even have something to write in my blog!
At least I am not missing the sunny summer weather!
One of the things that I found working for myself is that the idea of a weekend or a bank holiday becomes less relevant, less special. Well I have my first proper weekend for a while coming up and I am so looking forward to it!
I may even have something to write in my blog!
Tuesday, 10 July 2007
Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction is very attractive at the moment. The resurgence of Think and Grow Rich, The Secret and The Secret behind The Secret are all gaining a broader audience now. I am not sure what I think about these things personally however I do like two concepts from Hindu philosophy, non-attachment and single pointed attention.
Of course these elements may seem to be at odds with each other and can leave the reader confused. How can I be non-attached and yet give something single pointed focus or attention. As Tony Robbins says, we get what we focus on.
I like what Deepak Chopra says, which in my words is to give something your total focus and then let it go. Put your thought out there and do not be attached to it.
From my own experience this appears to be true. When I focus on being successful and let go of what it means to be successful then my business thrives from moment to moment. And in those moments that I am concerned as to the measure of success or where new business may come from coincide with less fruitful periods.
It is actually quite easy to track successful periods as this leads to resourceful behaviours and so more attractive situations.
Conversely times of scarcity show up in the being and is rewarded with scarcity, an ever downward spiral.
What this does not explain is that recently I have focused and let go and yet I am manifesting business offers from remote sources that in some cases I have not connected with for some time.
It is all welcomed as a gift. I do hope that I can give back.
Of course these elements may seem to be at odds with each other and can leave the reader confused. How can I be non-attached and yet give something single pointed focus or attention. As Tony Robbins says, we get what we focus on.
I like what Deepak Chopra says, which in my words is to give something your total focus and then let it go. Put your thought out there and do not be attached to it.
From my own experience this appears to be true. When I focus on being successful and let go of what it means to be successful then my business thrives from moment to moment. And in those moments that I am concerned as to the measure of success or where new business may come from coincide with less fruitful periods.
It is actually quite easy to track successful periods as this leads to resourceful behaviours and so more attractive situations.
Conversely times of scarcity show up in the being and is rewarded with scarcity, an ever downward spiral.
What this does not explain is that recently I have focused and let go and yet I am manifesting business offers from remote sources that in some cases I have not connected with for some time.
It is all welcomed as a gift. I do hope that I can give back.
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