Dilemma

We should never meet our heroes.

I did say that didn't I?

This leads me to a dilemma. When I knew I was adopted and eventually when I was growing up my adoptive parents told me about my birth parents and the where's and why's of my adoption. Of course I created an image in my mind of who my birth parents were and who I wanted them to be.

The reality is was very different. Our heroes are never who we want them to be and it is all about us and nothing to do with them. This has led me to a dilemma. Do I make contact or not? Of course Tony Robbins tells us that decisions based on two potential outcomes are not actually decisions but dilemmas. A decision is a choice based on a number of potential outcomes and indeed any choice always has multiple potential outcomes.

So I am going to take action. My original plan was to make contact because I love my son and cannot imagine letting go and not wanting to know what happened. This is still true.

Whatever happens next will be a whole new set of choices and I will let go of who I thought I was going to be.